Checkpoints for When You Want to Get There Already
I learned an important lesson traveling about 2,000 miles by car over 6 days driving from Delaware to Texas. You cannot hyper-fixate on a destination; instead you must make the most of your journey. Relocating across the country has so many moving parts to it. Exhausted from all the preparation we’d done many months before our actual move, I thought that all I wanted at this point was to just “get there”.
When we’re waiting to get from point A to point B, there’s a long stretch in the middle that we inevitably pass through. Majority of the lessons we ought to learn that make us better are tucked in this phase. They are concealed in the opportunities for you to react or respond to the day to day circumstances you face.
For example, when your kid throws in a wrench to your smooth sailing ride, and gets car sick then pukes all over the place, we don’t just throw our hands up in resignation. We act appropriately and we look for the next rest stop or a safe place to pull over to clean-up the mess.
Life throws us many unpleasant distraction bombs that bring us into detours or even forces us into a full stop. Pay attention to how you deal with what’s right in front of you. I like how my good friend Daniel Vaughan puts it: “The distance between your dream and your destination is your development.”
Even our levels of energy fluctuate to a point where we need to rest up our bodies and fuel up with sleep. We cannot just power through the course. We have our own needs physically, emotionally, and spiritually that we must attend to. Do not neglect yourself in the pursuit of a goal.
Our road trip was the first major effort we embarked on as a family to travel for many miles over many days. We did not know what to expect, though we hoped for the best outcome. These were the known variables: 2 adults, 2 kids, a 12-year old car with 175k miles on it overloaded with our stuff, 2000 miles to drive passing through 6 states spread over 6 days – what could go wrong, right? And of course, there are the unknown variables too, but why worry about the unknown?
When you find yourself waiting to get to your destination, whether literally or figuratively, take note of the following points:
Set an Intention
You can’t arrive at a destination if you don’t know where you’re going in the first place. Decide where you want to go (or what you want to be or what you want to do), then make a commitment to specifically identify actions to set foot on that path. Life is too short to not be doing what matters to you.
Don’t Look Around
There are times when we set forth in our journey, then we look around to gauge how others are doing. We inadvertently break our own momentum by focusing on others’ strengths, and sadly on our own weaknesses. We each have our own unique vehicle that carries us to our destination, and we’re not aware of what driving conditions others have had to endure before they’ve merged into the express way. Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle road.
Roadblocks are Ahead
We are tested every single day and these nuisances are aimed at polishing our character. We may be hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair. We can overcome these roadblocks ahead without becoming disoriented or distraught. Growth is the only guarantee that tomorrow will be better.
Now Go Look Around
You can always find something captivating in every journey. Look around you: See the grandiose display of nature – its blue skies, the majestic mountains populated with various shades of greenery, or the smooth glide of bird flight. Listen to thunderous heavy rainfall with glints of showy fluorescent lightning.
Look even closer: See the wonder in your children’s eyes as they encounter new things, the smiles that stir up inexplicable emotion in your heart. Relish silent moments with your loved one and hold his or her hand.
There’s a thousand reasons to fill your heart to the brim. Beauty is all around you, you must train your eyes to see them. Whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable if anything is excellent or praiseworthy think about such things.
It’s not the end game when you finally get to your driving destination. Quite contrary, it’s only the beginning. You will have to get acquainted with your new environment and go through the transition. It’s worth noting once more: You cannot hyper-fixate on a destination; instead you must make the most of your journey. Every day we set out on a journey to become a better person than we were yesterday.
Go ahead do a quick check and ask yourself: Are you better today than you were yesterday?